Thursday, August 14, 2008

No news is good news?

Isn't that what they say? In that case, I guess things are going well.

Sarah saw BM's sister Tuesday to let her know that we are very excited about adopting her baby and are willing to meet with her. BM's sister said she thinks BM is somewhere in the middle of the decision process, but she'll let us know when she makes some kind of decision.

We also found out that she is due in September (not even 2 months away! Eeek!) and not October.

I don't have a very good feeling about this. I feel really great about going through with it, but I don't feel like she is going to choose adoption. Maybe it's just self-preservation. And, maybe my 'feeling's don't mean much as far as the outcome anyway. I mean, I thought for sure I'd be bringing a little newborn boy home from Arkansas in February, and we saw how that turned out.

I did ask some non-legal advice from a lawyer Nestie. I found out that the process of private adoption is quite a bit more extensive than I had thought. We'll be finding a lawyer in OKC as soon as we get any word from BM. Then, it's home visits, background checks and, I'm sure, mounds of paperwork. The whole process can take up to a year, but usually a judge will grant temporary custody until the paperwork is complete.

For now, all we can do it wait. If she chooses to meet with us, I know the waiting will only be more difficult. It's hard to not get my hopes up, yet try to mentally prepare for the fact that we could be parents in less than two months.


Kristal said...

I'm praying for you Erin!!

mrs.leah.maria said...

I'll also be praying Erin, those are two huge extremes, not parents to parents.

I've been thinking of you girl!

Sea Squared said...

I'm definitely keeping you in my thoughts & prayers!

Two of a Kind said...

That baby would be so lucky to have you guys as parents! Love you, and am praying for you and the BM, that the right choice is made!

This Is Me said...

Just wanted to say I am thinking of you and praying for you both!

kari said...

I have been on vacation this week and just saw these 2 posts. You and Heath are in my prayers! Lots of positive thoughts for you.